Of all the Boroughs, the one I’ve barely touched in my career as a scout is the Bronx. Sure, I’ve scouted the Zoo, and the Botanical Gardens, and Riverdale, and all the other places people typically mean when they say “Oh, I’ve been to the Bronx.” But not the real Bronx.

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Then, last March, I signed onto a movie that was planning to film exclusively in the Bronx, in neighborhoods with pretty rough reputations. I gotta be honest: I was uneasy about it. Walking around with a pile of bright neon flyers and an enormous camera around my neck, I knew I was going to stick out like a sore thumb. I’ve had some bad encounters scouting in places like East New York before, and I just didn’t know what to expect in the borough Hollywood likes to portray as the most dangerous place on Earth.

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I was originally going to title this post “Is the Bronx the friendliest borough?,” but you know what? After four months spent visiting just about every corner of the Bronx, I feel I can answer that question unequivocally: the Bronx is the friendliest borough in New York City.

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Let me be clear: I don’t mean that people in the other boroughs aren’t perfectly nice. Or cordial. Or polite. Or amenable. But I meet a LOT of people in my travels as a scout, and if there’s one trait that seems universal to the New York personality, it’s what I’d call an elevated level of suspicion.

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New Yorkers are infamously suspicious of one another – just try saying “How’s it going?” to a random person on the street and watch him or her brush past you like you don’t exist. And of course, it’s often for good reason, as anyone who’s accidentally answered the “How’s it going?” question (spare change? got a metrocard swipe? want a free stress test? give me money for whatever cause is on this clipboard?) knows full well.

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But something was different in the Bronx. From the first day I started scouting, I found that people would talk to me out of the blue without any hidden agenda. For example, as I’d pass someone crossing the street, they’d nod and say “What’s up?” to me…and that was it. Could people really just be asking “What’s up?” just to be friendly? It didn’t make sense! But before long, I actually found myself answering, and returning the query.

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Things got weirder and weirder. I’d be in a deli, and someone would ask about my camera, and before I knew it, I was having a ten minute conversation explaining about the differences between camera bodies and lenses. Or I’d be putting up flyers in a building lobby, and find myself chatting about the weather with an elderly tenant checking their mail. And I swear, the friendliest Dunkin’ Donuts employees in the country are in the Bronx, of all things. In a way, it reminded me of the first time I visited the midwest, and was completely disarmed by how random strangers just kept having friendly conversations with me.

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But it was more than just casual conversation. When I’d be taking pictures of some of the Bronx’s lesser known historic areas, residents would always come up out of nowhere and start telling me the full history. I’d knock on people’s doors out of the blue, and they’d warmly let me in, proudly showing off the home where many had lived for decades, having survived the Bronx at its worst. No one treated me like a suspicious outsider, as so happens just about anywhere else in the city; I was treated like I lived next door (In fact, the only creepy people I met in the Bronx were the property owners from Manhattan, who always seemed to make uncomfortable jokes about about us being the only white people for miles).

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This is not to say there isn’t a dark side to the Bronx, or that bad things don’t happen there, or that when you visit you shouldn’t be on your guard, just as you would be in any other neighborhood you’re unfamiliar with. But the past four months I spent wandering through the Bronx have to be among the most enjoyable of my career, not only because of the beauty I got to see, but because of the people I got to meet and the wonderful spirit I found that I didn’t know existed in this city.

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To the Bronx: Thank you for a great four months. I shall return soon.

Oh, and one more thing. One day, I was getting something at a corner deli in a pretty dilapidated neighborhood as a bunch of 10 year old girls were buying candy after school. Just as they were leaving, one of them looked right at me and said, with the utmost sincerity, “You have really beautiful eyes,” then ran out.

I had to blink. Where was I????

-SCOUT

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  1. Paula Kiger Avatar

    I agree! The much-maligned Bronx has the finest people. 🙂

  2. JS50 Avatar
    JS50

    I grew up in the Bronx, 138th st and St Ann’s Avenue. My dad had a deli there until 1964. We saw the neighborhood change from German- Irish to Hispanic. In the 80’s, 139th and St. Ann’s was the highest drug dealing corner of the city. The deli became something else. THe problem with the rehabing in the Bronx is there a lot fewer brownstones and more tenaments which are harder to rehab. But it is pretty varied borough from the beautiful and treed Riverdale, to the northeast Bronx of White Plains Rd, Pelham Parkway, residential Throggs Neck, Fordham Road with the Zoo and Gardens to Yankee Stadium. Improve the economy and the Bronx will come back.Would like locations along with the pictures. Good article.

    1. Glenn Leahey Avatar
      Glenn Leahey

      My father’s family moved from the West 50s//Hell’s Kitchen to Eagle Avenue…he went to St. Augustine’s, and my mother lived on Washington Avenue…near THE HUB. It IS very difficult to “rehab” a neighborhood, especially, I add, when the biggest CHUNKS of poor quality housing are the NYCHA 8+ story buildings on “campuses”…dumbass Robert Moses!

  3. Kristal Torres Avatar
    Kristal Torres

    Thank you for shedding light on a place most people feel is dark. As someone born, raised and currently still living in The Bronx this touched me in many ways.

  4. A.Lemke Avatar
    A.Lemke

    Lovely story! Thanks for sharing your experiences in The Bronx, it’s exactly opposite of the stereotype. Now, we need a picture of those eyes!

  5. Mark Moore Avatar
    Mark Moore

    Great article. Scouting in the Great White North ( a strange phrase, considering our weather is the same as New York’s), I have the pleasure of this type of reception almost every day.
    Damn Canadians.

  6. Wanda Negron Avatar
    Wanda Negron

    I’ve always said and known the same. I’m currently in BK but making my way back to my old borough. I always say The BX is the only part of NYC that is truly still NY. I guess I’ve been in BK too long because I still marvel at how friendly everyone is when I visit Da BX and how people randomly start conversation with me. I thought I was “special”! I guess it ain’t me, it’s them!
    Thanks for finally give The BX it’s due!

  7. Isaac Moore Avatar
    Isaac Moore

    As a Bronxite I have to commend you on this posting. The Bronx is fantastic! But you should keep it down. We don’t want it to turn in to Williamsburg. SHHH!!

  8. Helene Avatar
    Helene

    I’m from Pelham Parkway originally but have lived in DC/Maryland since I graduated college in 1977. My mom is still there, 93 and living alone. Complete strangers help her up the 3 steps to get into the building, when she has passed out in the street, again, complete strangers have given her water, stayed with her until the EMS arrives. I can’t get her to leave. Check out the row house on Muliner Ave between Lydig Ave and Pelham parkway South. It puts the house in My Big Fat Greek Wedding to shame except it is Italian. Statues, stones, gardens. Absoltuley covered in stuff. I will be visiting the Bronx next week — my favorite part — the pizza!

  9. Sam Goodman Avatar
    Sam Goodman

    Great article. During the past twenty years I have had many opportunities to share my knowledge of my Grand Concourse community with hundreds of visitors to New York City. Stepping into numerous buildings with a hoard of people often does provoke conversation with those who happen to pass. Let it be known that in every case not only are we welcome, but in some cases we have actually been invited into an apartment, if for no other reason, simply to see how beautiful so many Grand Concourse dwellings really are. You have to know that this kind of hospitality would never happen in Manhattan.

  10. Olga Luz Avatar

    As the Executive Director of The Bronx Tourism Council, I am truly delighted you had such a wonderful experience and I can’t agree with you more…The Bronx is an exceptional place. Thank you for sharing your experience. I’d love to share your blog with my mailing list.

  11. Thom Avatar
    Thom

    Hey Scout, I’m gonna chime in with everyone else here and agree – loving the Bronx. We lived up in Norwood for three years – two white folks in a sea of Dominicans. I say that only to set the scene, for we were as welcome there as anyone who lived in the neighborhood. Everyone was friendly, much more so than in Yorkville, where I live now. And we love Yorkville, too, it’s just different. There was no pretense in the Bronx, there was a true community feel. I’ll miss it always.

  12. Elan Avatar
    Elan

    You’ve gotta let us know the locations of the photos though, Scout!

  13. Danny Avatar
    Danny

    you also a dude. if you a chick, you’d be met with a ton of cat calls and comments about your body parts.

  14. Tyra Avatar
    Tyra

    Scout, I like your blog and loved it on blogionaire.com

  15. Marlene Cintron Avatar
    Marlene Cintron

    As the president of the Bronx Overall Economic Development Corporation I work daily to overturn the preconcieved notions of tourists and other borough residents about my beloved Bronx. These notions have until recently adversely impacted who is willing to move their businesses here. With the stroke of a couple of keyboard keys and some wonderful pictures, you have done more than I have in three years. While I have yet to see your beautiful eyes, I have certainly taken a heaping look at your soul. It IS beautiful. Needless to say, y’all come back now real soon and stay another while.

  16. GraceAnne Avatar

    Born, raised, educated, and still live in the green and leafy north Bronx; as does my adult son. This is our city, this is our home.

  17. Mavis Avatar
    Mavis

    I was born in the Bronx and lived there for the first 9 years of my life. I have always known that it was a very special place. It will always be home to me.

  18. Sara Patrello Avatar
    Sara Patrello

    I was born and raised in the Bronx and I will never forget where I come from. I moved out when I was in my early thirties,and let just say this no place is like the Bronx. Always find one or more of your friends, go to the corner store, or eat at your favorite restaurant at anytime of the day or night. Nothing beats the food either. I will never find friends like the ones I have in the Bronx. I will always miss the Bronx.

  19. Gary Avatar
    Gary

    I love the blog. I love the post. I agree with the earlier post…please let us know the locations of the photos!

  20. Susie Avatar

    What a lovely post! I was born and raised in the Bronx and visit it a few times a year to go shopping on Arthur Avenue. You photographed some gorgeous buildings and really showed the heart of a borough that most think doesn’t have one.