Some time ago, I was scouting a woman’s house for filming, an “Anywhere USA” 2-story in the Valley.
After taking pictures of the first floor, I asked if I could grab a few photos of the master bedroom, which we’d previously discussed – and suddenly, she seemed reluctant.
People understandably are often uneasy about letting a stranger into rooms beyond the common areas of their home for a variety of reasons (including safety)…which is why I’m ALWAYS specific before the appointment about what areas I’d like to scout, to be sure they’re onboard.
But regardless of what was agreed upon, if I ever sense discomfort while scouting, I always hit the brakes and assure people there’s no reason to do anything that makes them uncomfortable. It’s easy enough to stick with just the exterior and common rooms, then schedule a follow-up scout at a later date if the director responds positively.
And it often gives them a moment to reflect on whether they really are comfortable with a crew of 100+ trampling through their home over the course of several days.
After a moment of consideration, the woman insisted it was OK to shoot today, that her bedroom was just messy because she was involved in a project, and she was embarrassed to show it.
Now, I hear something like this at almost every home I scout. As I walk through, homeowners will often point out every element of their home that they’re insecure about. “We’ve been meaning to repaint that room…” “We’re going to re-drywall next week…” “It’s such a mess, I can’t believe you’d want to film here…”
I’ll stress again and again, all we care about is size, layout, and the broad strokes – which is true! But I get it – it’s a vulnerable situation to have someone in the most intimate areas of your home who is explicitly there to cast a level of judgement over what you’ve built.
As we went upstairs, I assured the woman that we in fact like messes, that production designers very much prefer to see a “lived in” feel rather than an immaculately clean home.
She seemed unconvinced, and as we neared the bedroom door, I began to wonder: what exactly was I about to see? I’ve been in homes where “the mess” turns out to be a sock on the floor, and in others where it’s a legitimate hoarder situation, with old newspapers stacked floor to ceiling. I stepped through the doorway –
And the “mess” was the last thing I could’ve expected.
There were Legos everywhere. Not built sets, but Lego pieces. Thousands, if not tens of thousands, strewn out across a series of folding tables that dominated the room, the queen-size bed pushed to the corner as though an after-thought.
Looking closer, I saw the tables were covered in storage shelves with tiny drawers labeled by the particular Lego part and color they contained. There were sets in the process of being dismantled, piles of instruction manuals, Legos on the carpet…
Most of the time, the “mess” is something so minor, it’s easy to ignore. But other times, the explanation begins without a question even being asked.
“It’s my side hustle,” she explained, with an air of embarrassed defeat.
“It started when my son told me to sell his old Legos. I learned that you made more money if the sets were complete. And then I found out that there’s a lot of money in selling individual pieces. I’m a teacher, but we can really really use the money.
“It’s weird, I know.” She almost seemed like she might cry.
These are the moments that get me most as a scout, when you see the unexpected side of someone’s life you’d never know from the perfectly normal living room, the perfectly average kitchen, the perfectly typical backyard.
The moments where you see the real person, the struggles, the ingenuity, the creativity, the unexpected, the resilience. Where you’re reminded yet again how complex and surprising and nuanced people are behind the mask they present to the world.
And as you’re taking it in, the idea that there’s someone out there who could look at her situation and cast judgment and mockery just reminds you who the real monsters are.
I assured the woman that the history of my job was coming upon things like this in people’s homes, and it couldn’t be more normal. Open enough doors or closets or drawers, and eventually you find something like this at any house. Thankfully, she seemed to believe me.
When scouts like this wrap up, there’s always a funny cheeriness that follows, like when you go to the dentist expecting a cavity and are instead given a clean bill of health. And honestly, what better feeling is there than letting your guard down completely – and finding there was nothing to be afraid of after all?
At a time when it’s never been easier to reduce people in our minds as the worst of one-dimensional caricatures, I’ve always appreciated my job for constantly providing me with evidence that most people turn out to be anything but.
And it’s a nice day when the world seems surprised to agree.




































































































































































